The countdown to Xmas has officially begun…..but what is Xmas and what does it really mean?
For starters, I call it Xmas because I personally don’t follow religion. I do believe in a higher power, but I do not believe in the same higher power that is portrayed through some religions…..that’s another story for another blog. Back to XMAS!!!
I understand Xmas to be a single time of year when family members near and far can come together and enjoy traditions that are important to them. But as we’ve all seen, Xmas has become nothing more than a commercialized holiday. Instead of focusing on family and being together, too many people are working themselves to death to fill up a space beneath an overly decorated tree. Instead of being taught the gift of giving, too many of our children are expecting the latest sneakers or the most expensive toy to be waiting for them under the tree on Xmas morning. Most of us, if not all of us, have fallen victim to being more concerned with what we would receive for Xmas than what we would give.
I’ve cut myself out of the habit of expecting gifts by asking for one thing from one person, and then letting everyone else know that I didn’t need nor did I want anything for Xmas. If they insisted on buying me a gift, I would tell them to donate whatever they would give me to a local shelter or charity. I’ve grown to understand that there are people less fortunate than myself who would kill for half the things I take for granted on a daily basis. I’ve even gotten my daughter into the same mindset. So as a new family tradition, we give away most of her old clothing, shoes and toys to local shelters to make room for the new items she will receive from other family members.
You can adopt these same techniques to get yourself and your family into a giving frame of mind; or you can create similar traditions that would work better for you. Discuss with your family why you celebrate Xmas the way you do, and figure out if there are any changes — subtle or drastic — that could improve your family traditions for the better.
Thanks for reading,