Before I begin this post, I want you to take a minute and just stare at yourself in the mirror. Is there anything about yourself you would prefer not to see everyday? Why? Is it because there aren’t any models or actresses or celebrities that look more like you? Is it because the media doesn’t show any images that represent you? Are you unique parts not portrayed in the real world? Or could it be, simply, that society says there is something wrong, so you believe there is something wrong?
Regardless of the reason, I’m here to tell you that it’s bs. You are beautiful as you are. Your ‘flaws’ (and I use this term loosely) make you an individual. You have to love yourself as is. Don’t allow anyone to put you down or make you feel inferior about anything. You are special.
The term flaw is defined as:
— a feature that mars the perfection of something; defect; fault
— a defect impairing legal soundness or validity
— a crack, break, or breach
We all have characteristics about ourselves that make us unique. Some people have beauty marks, birthmarks, freckles, oily or dry skin, wide-set eyes, pointy noses, plump limps, weird hairlines, oddly shaped foreheads, etc. It’s not about pointing out the things that are distinctive and hating them, you should instead learn to love your exclusive traits. I, personally, have always had issues with my calves. I am nowhere near an exercise freak — I hate sweating — but I do walk a lot, so my calf muscles are extremely defined. I used to get teased about how ‘strong’ my calves looked, and it would really bother me. Then one day, I realized that my legs looked better as a whole because of my strong calves. I learned to ignore the criticism and comments, and embrace my beautiful legs. I am no longer self-conscious about wearing skirts or dresses. I love my legs! Lol.
Your eyes may be too small or too big, but be grateful that you have sight.
Your lips aren’t big, they’re plump and kissable — and Kylie’s Lip Kit is made for people who want lips as juicy as yours.
Your hair is kinky but it is also versatile; you can style it in so many different ways.
Embrace your flaws. Love you for you!
Now look at yourself again. Think of all the flaws you pointed out in the beginning of this post, and find something positive about them. Write down these positive comments and use them as a mantra. Repeat them to yourself or out loud each morning as you get ready for your day. Pull them out as a reminder of how beautiful you are whenever you experience negative feelings. Use these positive comments to understand that you are an individual, and that there isn’t anything wrong with being rare.
This post is number two of a three part series. If you haven’t read part one StandardizedBeauty, be sure to check it out. Part three is still in the works, but I will have it posted before next week. Enjoy your day beautiful, and I’ll see you on my next post.