I know we’ve all either seen the 2011 movie “The Help” or have seen or heard of the many memes created from this phrase. It may sound silly or funny, but the underlying message from this simple line is so important.
In previous posts, I’ve talked about loving yourself and understanding your worth. Speaking positive and encouraging words onto yourself is a great way to love yourself, and will help boost your self-esteem. Many of us already know that words have power; but do you understand exactly how powerful your words can be? The words you use to label yourself play a major part in shaping your mindset. If you are constantly calling yourself stupid, you will begin to believe that you are stupid. If you only speak positive about yourself, that positivity will be reflected outward. The energy you possess, whether positive or negative, will dictate how you conduct yourself and how you treat others.
By saying a few simple words of encouragement to yourself every morning, you can change your life. (I know how corny that sounds, but it is true.) If you’ve ever seen an episode of BET’s Being Mary Jane, you have seen the yellow sticky notes that seem to cover her headboard and bathroom mirror. Each sticky note has a quote written on it; each quote is an affirmation that allows her to see herself in a more positive light. One of my favorites is from Thomas Edison — “I have not failed. I’ve just found 10,000 ways that won’t work.” This quote encourages you to keep trying, regardless of how many times you’ve messed up.
Now, while inspirational quotes and encouraging words are amazing tools for your self esteem and understanding your self worth, you also have to remember not to allow others to speak negativity into your life. Letting any type of negative energy into your space can have an effect on you, so filter your circles. If you can avoid people in your life who always seem to have something bad to say about you, do so. You don’t need a friend who criticizes all of your thoughts and opinions, or someone who makes back-handed compliments — a compliment followed immediately by an insult. “Girl, I love your shirt…but it looks a little tight on you. Is that your correct size?”
On the surface, you may be able to let this kind of comment slide and go on with your day; but subconsciously you are wondering if you’ve gained weight recently, or if you possibly bought the wrong size. This type of person is not a friend, and should be filtered out of your circle.
To wrap up this blog, I’m going to give you a few simple mantras that you can repeat to yourself while getting ready in the morning, or during your commute to work or school. You can even write them down and read them to give yourself a boost later in the day. By speaking positivity onto yourself, you give yourself the chance to put your best foot forward, and have a very productive day.
Mantra #1: Today is a new day. The problems of yesterday no longer matter. The worries of tomorrow are not yet important. I will make the most of this new opportunity.
Mantra #2: I am superior to negative thoughts and low actions.
Mantra #3: I am at peace with all that has happened, is happening, and will happen.
Mantra #4: I possess the qualities needed to be extremely successful.
Mantra #5: I is smart, I is kind, I is important!