Showering with My Toddler: A Fundamental Mom-cessity!!!

Hey guys. As you can tell from the title, this post is about mom necessities or mom-cessities as I like to call them. This will be the first of a series of posts geared towards moms and ways to make our lives easier.

I’ve recently gotten into a heated discussion about this topic with a group of moms, two of which agreed while the third disagreed so strongly, there was steam blowing out of her ears (see what I did there, lol). Now, we all agreed that mothers are the most over-worked and under-appreciated individuals on Earth. We all even agreed that mothers either need more hands, or more hours in our days to ensure that everything on our to-do lists got done. The disagreement began when one of the moms mentioned that she showers with her 1-year old to save time.

Mom #2 and I immediately started laughing as we both do the same. My youngest is 18 months and very attached to me. Showering with her just makes our bedtime ritual run more smoothly — less crying, less trips to the bathroom, more time for the inevitable “I’m not tired” song and dance before she actually falls asleep. Mom #3, on the other hand, couldn’t hide the disgust from her face. She started her explanation by stating that she didn’t intend to offend any of us with her opinion. She stated that showering with our children was just lazy and that as mothers, we should never be taking the easy way out.

Pausing the story for a second…don’t we all cut corners to maximize on time in some aspect of our lives? I mean, shortcuts to get somewhere faster are still a thing, right? Back to the discussion.

Mom #3 expressed that we were “stripping” our children of their innocence because we were “exposing” them to our adult body parts and our adult germs. And she made sure to emphasize the quoted words as if to insinuate that we were being inappropriate with our children. I was offended by her entire rant and proceeded to let her know why.

For starters, I grew this tiny human inside of my adult body. I gave birth to her and breastfed her (still do by the way). Half of her DNA comes from me. So exposing her to my adult body and adult germs are a non-factor. I am her teacher, her provider, and her role model; her first friend, her confidant, and her protector. As long as I am fulfilling these roles, keeping her safety in mind, then I’ve done my job correctly as her mother. For {you} to insinuate or clearly state anything different, tells me more about you and your thought process than it does me and mine.

Mom #3 apologized to the group for the way she stated her opinion. After taking a few moments to cool down, we all agreed to disagree and to move on from this touchy topic.

To wrap up this winded post, we are all entitled to our opinions and mom-shaming is so unnecessary. No two moms are raising their kids exactly the same and that is ok. Showering with my little one allows us to save time while getting ready for bed; and yes, my kids and I skip morning showers (unless absolutely necessary) so that we can get a few extra minutes of sleep. Judge me if you want to, but only if your family is perfect.

Until next time…

XOXO,

Melanin

 

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